Reader Question: From what I have gleaned in study, it is my understanding that every one comes in with lessons that they have chosen to learn in regard to their personalities traits etc, both positive and negative… some of which make them incompatible with or unable to mesh with people of certain other traits, even though they care deeply for them. My question is, once a person or persons learn their life lesson/lessons they came in with does that make them more easily compatible with, in balance with, and able to get along with others or each other if it is a couples relationship? Hopefully I’ve stated this in a manner that you can understand what I am asking. Thanks a lot. ~Sarah
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Response: Dear Sarah, Yes.
When you’re aware of your own life lessons, it can be easier to have compassion for another person’s lessons. When you’re unaware of your own areas of life/soul learning, you’ll have the tendency to project responsibility for your unmet needs on your partner. Often, people take this as a sign of incompatibility, when it actually points to a greater need for self-responsibility.
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